Mom has adjusted amazingly to MC -- she loves them and they love her. I have not visited. She is 94, mobile and engaged there, friends, activities, etc. Dilemma - should I go? or leave things alone since she is happy, content and not really longing or asking about family or her things (house, car, money). Afraid my visit will trigger memories about all her home, car, money. Director says a visit is fine. But I don't want to upset the apple cart. I'm happy to let her live her best days but don't want to be the bad daughter that never visits. I don't want to set her off and then have a bunch of phone calls where she is now "depressed, wont come out of her room, fretful, mean to staff, etc." which are all possible given mom's history.