A little background,
I grew up in Fl and after college I moved to NYC, my brother enlisted and my mother moved to Italy (hometown) my dad remained in FL.
I’m now in my late twenties and have a family of my own in NYC. My brother is stationed across seas. My mom couldn’t find work in Italy and decided to move back to Florida with my dad. The morning of her flight, I got a call from a neighbor that my dad had a heart attack and didn’t make it.
Since then, I have had to leave my family multiple times to help her out. She makes me feel guilty that she is all alone. Living in NYC is very expensive and our apartment is too small for another person. Her pension wouldn’t cover the cost of a 1 bedroom here. We FaceTime everyday so she gets to “see” her grandchildren and vacations always include her.
Examples of her complaints: My dad bought and paid off a house in a community that has monthly fees that she’s always mentioning, and saying it’s going to make her go bankrupt.
If I ask her about her day she will say “I’m alone, with no money what do you think? Nothing, home, same as everyday”
I paid for her upcoming trip with us and found a great deal but it departs on her birthday.
”Really? You couldn’t of found a better day?.... it’s fine, I’m used to spending my birthday alone”
these are just the most recent events...
Her “ ideal” life would be to be living with or close to me and her grandkids. It’s just not possible with the cost of where I live. She is about to be 60 and I’m stressing everyday about her. She just puts a lot on my shoulders and it's wearing me down.