I moved my mom from a Retirement Facility three months ago into our home on advice of her doctor that she was not capable of living alone. I live eight hours from her previous city where my sister also lives. She talks to my sister via phone and relays that she has been cold since she arrived, she has to work, is tired and holds my sisters picture at night until tears come to her eyes. None of this is true. We have our heat set at 74, have got warm clothes for her to wear, provided a heated matress pad, help her with daily dressing, bathing, etc. Yet she tells my sister otherwise. I confronted her and she told me that she tells her those things to make her feel good. I tried to reason with her that it is driving a wedge between me and my sister and that I am sure my sister would rather she tell the truth. Yes she misses my sister but she is not living in the conditions she describes. I am so frustrated and feel that trying to reason with her is like talking to a 4 year old. She denies she ever said anything to my sister. My mom has always lied about things in the past, even before her dementia. She seems to think that if she tells "little white lies" and they make someone feel good it is perfectly OK. When she talks to my sister, she tells her one thing and when she talks to me she tells me something different and by doing this it will make us love each other. Actually what it has done is make us hate each other. There are so many lies it is hard to tell what is true and what isn't and neither me or my sister trust each other anymore. I don't know what to do but it is making me feel like all I do is for nothing. I don't want to have my mom living in my house if she is unhappy. However, she tells me that she is so glad she is here and so glad I take such good care of her. I am truly frustrated!