My 96 year old mother will not except being at NH. She was independent prior to admission do to an aortic aneurysm. Not safe to live on own. She has dementia. Some days more lucid than others. She has bags pack. She refuses showers and won’t wash hair until she gets into own shower. All she talks about is going home and cry’s. Won’t go to activity. Stays in room. What to do? Awful to see her so miserable.
Sadly, the 'ugliness' of aging is that we really lose the person we loved. And it's like we're dealing with a whole other person..which is kind of what we are doing.
If it helps to know this--I've never heard of a person 'returning home' and it being the best decision. It just sets up a whole level of need that often simply cannot be met.
If she does attempt to escape, the admins will probably recommend transitioning her to MC. She doesn't need to "accept" anything since it is for her own good.
FYI elders fall in their own homes without being on meds all the time. Please continue to work with her doctor to find a med or combo that will help her. This is merciful, since she *cannot* get herself back into a mental state of acceptance and peace due to her broken brain.
unfortunately my brother who has Parkinson’s is POA. I have suggested anti depressant but has not happened. I really do not at this age an antidepressant will help. Hospice gave her Ativan three times a day and fell. Very irresponsible on there part.
She is suffering mentally. It makes
sense to help alleviate that.
I am afraid you will for now be left with the platitude of giving this some time. Understand that no one caused this and no one can really fix it. It is what happens for so many toward the end, with one thing after another being taken away.
I sure wish you luck and hope things get better.