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Mom keeps asking "can you take me home?"

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When she no longer recognizes her own home. She keeps asking for every and anyone who is here to take her home to her house.

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I would tell my mom we could go tomorrow. Then distract her with a task or treat.

For my mom I think "home" often meant a feeling... not just a place. She often wanted to go home in the evening...sundowning. I removed reflective items such as mirrors, some pictures, glass display boxes...and I closed the drapes and turned on brighter lights. This helped minimize confusing shadows, etc. We also we're cautious about what shows were on the tv. Making her more comfortable helped her ask about going home less. Much luck to you on your journey.
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Mine will pack her clothes and have a case next to the door. When that happens it is heartwrenching. Since I know she will forget...i try to redirect and say i can do it tomorrow but not today and i use a firm/gentle voice to say not today and don't add any undue emotion to my voice.
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My mom says this at least once every couple of days and sometimes if she is in a "mood" it may be more frequently. She is living with me but we do have her home maintained so fortunately I am able to tell her that i will take her home for a visit but not today because i am working. Sometimes it is her way of saying or meaning that she needs to get out of the house and go for a ride.
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I have this situation with my mother. She will ask me, now and then, to "take me home." It does me no good to tell her we ARE home, where we have lived for more than 30 years. For me to take her to her "childhood home" would be impossible--when she was a child she lived in a small house in Indianapolis. (We live in a mobile home in Gardena, California; since we came out here in 1952 we have moved fourteen times.)
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There’s a thread on this forum now about songs for a funeral.
There have been many great suggestions. I’ve enjoyed reading it as it has reminded me of many old songs.
Your post reminded me of another.

This world is not my home
I'm just a-passing through
My treasures are laid up
Somewhere beyond the blue.
The angels beckon me
From heaven's open door
And I can't feel at home
In this world anymore.
Oh Lord, you know
I have no friend like you
If heaven's not my home
Then Lord what will I do.
The angels beckon me
From heaven's open door
And I can't feel at home
In this world anymore.

Jim Reeves - This World Is Not My Home
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Yes, we believe she is speaking of her childhood home as well. We've asked her what she may remember of that place....she does not tell details. We even went as far as to take a drive to where my Grandmother's house used to be (torn down now) to see if she recognized the trip, area, landmarks. She said she did, as we pointed out some locations, but I really don't think she did.

Thanks for the response. I appreciate it.
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I'm sorry to hear this.

Her symptoms are due to her alzheimer's / dementia. It sounds like she is at the stage where she needs to be in a nursing home with a memory care unit. It is possible that the home she is asking to be taken to is her childhood home.
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