Mom is 83. She has atrial fibrillation which has apparently resulted in small strokes and central sleep apnea. She has declined for two years. A more rapid decline began late last year when she began having what seemed temporary delerium episodes with urinary retention. She had to start home urinary catheters and was prone to frequent infections. She became weaker and about two months ago, was unable to walk without assistance and was forgetful that she couldn't walk by herself. About six weeks ago, she tried walking when I stepped out of the room, and fell and bruised her hip. Two days later, a home health care nurse said her heartbeat was rapid and erratic, and later that day she fainted while I was helping her to sit up in bed. She went to the ER and spent four days in the hospital while they got her electrolytes corrected, and treated a UTI. She barely ate or drank while in the hospital. She was terribly weak at the end of her stay. The doctors recommended a stay in rehab, but she insisted she wanted to go home. So, she came home with me to my home that we've shared for nine years. She sometimes forgets where she is, or doesn't recognize it. She has a foley catheter. At first, I could move her with her assisting, between her bed, wheelchair, and lounge chair. It got to where I lift her entire weight and she can't assist. I watch her in the daytime, and my sister at night, and we use a camera and phone app to observe her when we can't be in the room. The last week, she has slept more, and ate and drank less. Now, she sleeps around the clock, except for brief periods. We try to give her medications, but she is not always strong enough to take them, or she sometimes seems unable to sit up, open her mouth, or swallow. We try to give her food and drink, but she either doesn't want much, or any at all, or can't swallow. Her communication varies, from a short mostly lucid conversation to not being able to talk. She is under Hospice care, with a nurse coming once a week and someone giving her baths. Her regular doctor told her he could no longer see her if she didn't go to rehab following the hospital, so her doctor of 35+ years is out of the picture. The Hospice people are nice, and answer questions but I still feel uncertain. Am I doing all I can for her? I feel guilty when I see her sleeping her time away and I can't help her, give her anything that will make her better, or even talk to her like I used to. I talk to her, but she can't talk the same as before, and has confusion. Hospice told me not to force food, water or medicine, and I would not want to force anything on her. However, I fell guilty and helpless. My sister and I are exhausted, yet we would re-double our efforts if it could make a difference or make her any happier or more comfortable. We are both so scared of losing her. So, what do you other caregivers think?