Follow
Share

Mom lives with my husband and I and she sleeps so much. Goes to bed at 9pm and not up until almost noon. I asked if she's feeling ok and say she does and when I tell her it's noon and she's just eating breakfast, she just shrugs her shoulder as to say, "whatever". Done with breakfast and starts reading the paper and falls a sleep again in her chair. Should I be concerned or what? I have to make doctor, nail and hair appointments in the afternoon so that I don't have to keep fighting her to get moving so we can be on time for the appts.

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.

34 Answers

Most
Helpful Newest
First Oldest
First
My 80 yr old mom feels guilty because she sleeps a lot, lives in AL.
I tell her to sleep if she wants and enjoy it. It doesn't take much to wear her out.
I would be like "whatever" too, just let me sleep.
Helpful Answer (9)
Report
I guess I'll just let her sleep and not worry. Thanks, glad to know that I'm not alone here.
Helpful Answer (8)
Report
My 94 yr old mom thinks that old people need a lot of sleep because their bodies are trying to repair everything that is failing. She may be right. She says she feels much better after 12 -14 hours of sleep.
Helpful Answer (7)
Report
In the final year of Mom's life, she was sleeping from 6pm till 7am.
In the final two months she was sleeping till about 10 or 11 am
In the final weeks she was sleeping from 4pm till noon

It got harder and harder to get food into her...she was sleeping more than 22 hours a day when she was put on hospice...

Finally...she never really woke up much at all.
Helpful Answer (6)
Report
My mom sleeps a lot also. I asked a nurse and her reply was "by this point in her life she earned the right to sleep. "

You mentioned, however, her attitude of "whatever. " Perhaps just make sure she is not depressed or bored. Both of these will make a person want to sleep excessively.
Helpful Answer (6)
Report
Let her sleep! It's the only respit I get from the constant nagging and complaining and demanding. And plus she, too, feels better after an afternoon nappie!. Much better attitude at the dinner table! It's a good thing!.
Helpful Answer (5)
Report
May I ask how old is your Mom? Elders in their 80's and 90's do tend to sleep a lot, mainly because they have lived a long time and are tired. Also, if Mom takes prescription medicine, such as blood pressure pills, said medicine can make someone very sleepy, too.

My parents use to brag that they only needed 6 hours of sleep and were up with the roosters. But they never added in the nap they took after breakfast, the nap after lunch, the nap before dinner, and the nap after dinner :P
Helpful Answer (4)
Report
My mom is 90 and has dementia. She goes to bed no later than 6pm and sleeps until 9am. There is nothing wrong with her, she just needs the sleep. This is not unusual. People in their 90"s with dementia do tend to sleep alot. A bomb could go ofc and she won't wake up so I can get chores done while she is sleepijng.
Helpful Answer (4)
Report
What is it your mother is supposed to be doing all day? Have a full and active schedule?  A volunteer job?  Outings, trips, gatherings with friends and relatives, out to restaurants and movies? I say, let her sleep on her own schedule as long as she isn't up all night disrupting the household. If all she does is sit and watch daytime tv, and shuffle back and forth to the bathroom all day, I think I would want the sweet release of sleep, too. You could mention it to her doctor, but there's no miraculous cure.
Helpful Answer (4)
Report
My mom sleeps until 9:30am, and last night went to bed before 8PM. I try to get her to stay up until 8:30, but I guess as long as she sleeps at night, why not let her create her own schedule. It gives me a little time to myself in the evening and in the morning.
Helpful Answer (4)
Report
See All Answers
This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.

Recent Questions


Popular Questions


Related Questions

Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter