Mom is seeing dead people. What do I say?

Ggjj11,
Don't take offence to some morons answers, no matter where you go, even a place that is supposed to be supportive, there is always a few thoughtless dunderheads! Hang in there, this is not uncommon. :)

Ggjj11, I've had thoughtless comments on threads I've started too .. stay focused on your mom, remember to take care of YOU, and know there are many who have either walked this road, and care, or will someday, and will then "get it!", hopefully ... Stay encouraged!!! (((HUGS)))

This is dimentia forum I am on not an alcoholic one. My Mom has late stage and sees her dead husband,mom and sister. I am insulted.

The seeing dead people experience of someone who is dying differs from the insanity of drinking until you see people. Most see a dead relative and the vision does not usually scare the viewer. In fact, it is often comforting and a way of opening the veil to ease the way "home."

Just wondering if any of the people seeing the people that are deceased are drinking alcohol. I know a man, in his 50's, who is an alcoholic and sees a head attached to his phone (not his own head) and talks to the trees in his yard. This man is a doctor- college professor, but he put his life in the toilet!

Be sure to check with your doctor. My mom experienced the same type issue, seeing people that were not there, and we found out she was having a side effect to one of her medicines.

Whatever you do, don't you talk to the dead people.

In response to the lady whose mother had the urinary tract infection, people who have dementia offen get worse when they have any type iPod inflammation or illness. Dies your mom have dementia?

Interesting. I was just talking to a friend about this today. She said her 94 year old mom started getting confused, talking to dead people, talking to her wig etc. She took her mom to the emergency room and found that she had a urinary tract infection. Once they cleared the infection up she was fine again.

Interesting

How do you handle a person with dementia who constNtly sees people in and outside his house who are making changes to, destroying his property and stealing things. My husband and I constantly fight about this because I disagree that anyone is in or near our house. He has even gone as far as calling the police a few times

During my Dad's final days his night time caregiver said he kept asking for or talking to Bob. Bob was my uncle who was deceased. The caregiver told us that when one is near the end they frequently see or speak to deceased relatives.

Caputo

"Long Island Medium's " Theresa Capito goes/sees loved ones from the other side for her clients.

Your mom might very well be communicating with relatives/friends from the other side. Try not to pooh-pooh what she is seeing. It may be very real to her. Encourage her to share what/whom she sees, if she and you are comfortable with that. If she is not distressed about their presence and seems to enjoy the visits, assure her they are there to help comfort her and pass along their love.

I am a caregiver and one of my favorite ladies I cared for who was pretty capable in her mind would often have hallucinations of her dead son. She also asked me one day when I arrived, "Who are the little girls you brought with you?" I was alone. She was in her 90's and I figured she may have Lewy Body Dementia as that can cause hallucinations. I never contradicted or corrected her, I went right along because I did not want to upset her. The hallucinations were not bothering her and for all I know, she could be seeing them and I can't! I don't rule out what is outside my realm of understanding but it is common with Lewy Body Dementia to have hallucinations so it is another possibility. Do a little research and see if there are other symptoms that relate or it can be a UTI. Other than that, who am I to say when people see their deceased loved ones that it is impossible.

My friend who passed on 12-25-15 had also been experiencing this same situation, and told me that he was "going home", and that he made piece with his spiritual guide. It can be overwhelming, but a reality. Try not to worry, they will be ALRIGHT!

The Bible does NOT say that spirits of a loved one can not speak to or appear to people alive on earth. The post about Luke 16:26 "there is a great gulf/chasm fixed between the dead and the living" is means between Heaven & Hell.

Jesus is telling a story about Abraham, who is in Heaven, speaking to a man in Hell. The man in H3ll sees Abraham & ask him to send someone from Heaven to come help him. Then Abraham tells this man that he can not because "there is a great gulf/chasm fixed between here and there. "Here" meaning Heaven where Abraham is, and "There" meaning Hell where the man he is speaking to is.

Then the man asked Abraham to send angel to warn his family about Hell & to do good on earth, which Abraham replys that he will not because they wouldn't believe the angel anyway because they've already heard it from others (Moses,...) and won't believe them.

It's possible your mom is hallucinating however, I doubt it. The main thing is to reassure mom in whatever way comforts her. I would not tell her they are not real or to ignore them...because when she does pass, they may be the ones who are there to provide her comfort & guidance in the crossing.

Dear sole! My gram did the same thing...saw a man behind me..she even waved her hand in the air behind me...said it was like smoke...I believe she saw my guardian angel...she didn't do this with everyone...just myself and our pastor...only she said a large man was behind him...this cannot be a coincidence if so many see this..and she did not have a UTi...it was real! We experienced many such moments with her...there is a wonderful book...titled...Final Gifts..by Maggie Callan and Patricia Kelley..that is very helpful

Try changing the subject. It would hurtful to tell her "they're deceased."

I don't discourage this behavior or negate it at all. It seems to be a comfort to many people who are coming to the end of their life or are alone and or lonely. If they are not afraid, why should we be afraid? I truly believe that they are being visited and helped by those that can help them; but that is, I realize a subjective belief.

My mom sees the dead people, too. She says that my father always comes to visit her and is sitting right on the bed. So I asked her where is he sitting because I don't see him. She pointed -- right there in front of me.

I feel like i should explain my answer better. I said if Mom is not afraid then ask her about them. Sometimes it gets old always having your kid act like they know it all and constantly correcting you. " Terri Holst 2012" I am quoting a very brave and wonderful lady whom has passed from LBD. So go ahead and be the kid again and maybe say, "gee that seems rude they wont talk to you, are they talking to each other Mom? Can you hear what they are saying? Hey,Mom maybe they cant see you What if you wave, do they look at you. Wow.. I wonder who they are? You may just get a conversation going and make mom feel not so alone today. Just a thought...

Are they scaring her or is she ok with them? If she isnt scared of them then ask her about it like sharing a vision with you that you cant see but are curious about. Itt may be a chance to connect with you/

Regarding "great gulf fixed" ... there isn't. My mom and I are both natural born mediums. Not only have the dead come back to comfort us, they have brought us important and timely and accurate information, always with love. The gulf is one that we create when we cut ourselves off from spirit. The bible is translated, and sometimes the beliefs of the translator determine how it is translated.

I would say: "Mom, ask them if they are in heaven".

I was with my mother-in-law the night she passed, and she was talking to her mother and sister (both deceased years earlier). She seemed to be content with having them there, and carrying on a conversation. This was about 3 hrs before she was gone. One of her daughters told me that her mom had been talking with the sister once when she was there as well.

Es0torok, I think that people with LBD often are more self-aware than people with some other types of dementia. This is both an advantage and a terrible burden. My husband took the LBD journey for 10 years. Very bumpy road! Many times we would discuss a bad day and blame it on Lewy. He was very aware of his memory lapses and some of his sensory issues. I don't think we ever discussed his hallucinations or delusions -- while he was having them they were very real (and the LBD was not on his mind) and after they passed he totally forgot them. But I can see how that might work with someone very self-aware.

"They" say when you die, walk into the light, see the tunnel with the light at the end, see gramma and mom and dad waiting for you at the pearly gates, it is only the deteriorating dying brain creating hallucinations. Well, now, some of us prefer to think maybe there is an afterlife? My husband always says I'm not 'fit to go to heaven (well, who IS?), but I am sure to go over the Rainbow Bridge and be in a sunny land with all my deceased animals! Sounds good to me! :-D

That is a hard one.
Process of elimination.
Eliminate medical disorder
Then med side effect.
Then if shes not hallucinating.
Yes, tell her they are now watching over her to comfort her. Only allowed to speak with their eyes and thoughts.

I used to be skeptical.
Until my husbands poitrait elevated 2ft in the air pushed across room upright hovered between sons arguing over person (a comrade of his I didnt know was one of two people we were waiting on before he died) and dropped on his head.
Husband also seen by neighbor behind me standing in hallway she never saw him alive she was moved in bedridden fighting cancer.
She asked about him described him. She was spooked by him. Never saw the picture he was standing infront of it was angled so could not be seen from front door ontop of budine shrine table.
Few yrs later I was awKened by sound of my van running.
Inated problem it had white smoke out tailpipe Windows were fogged from inside like when someone is inside. No dew or fog on van could hear sound of running.while I stood next to it. No vibration.knocked on driver door because looked like shadow in it , turned to face me I trying to figure out familiar dark shadowed face. No more shadow like a little fuzzy the like a focusing and it was my husbands face clear as day. His eyes spoke he was waiting on me time to go. I was helping the same person at their old homestead he was dying of Hep C liver failure.
I stayed I had promised I would stay , but, he was correct it was time to go then.
Quite a few people I dont know have come to be my friends few months words spoken before their demise. Sick and healthy. And to talk about together of dreams dreament same night soon to come to pass as reality. We both saw the memorial where it was held and all 4 memorialized ( seperate incidents fallen p.officers).
I know now what as a child scared me.As an adult made me doubt my self. When others see and hear what I do at the same time. I belive I dont doubt maybe she does see.
It is said persons who experience brain amalities,injury change the brain. I belive in the ability of spirit or energy existing outside of a body. It is proven footprints are left. Maybe its real maybe not. If they are there to her. Acknowledging posibility theryre there maybe her brain is able to see them. Memories are a blessing.
My husband and I he wanted memories of us together enjoyment not work.
Tried to do that. He couldnt remember. If shes not calling people by wrong name and cannt find organic reason for hallucinations.
Yes they are there to comfort her and keep her company. Ask her if colors are brighter or seeing certain color. Persists when she says they are there ; tell them they are upsetting her and you understand they cant speak but please make her feel warm an comfortable and at ease while they keep her company.
Bless you in your endevors.