My mother just turned 80 and lives with me. I’m currently experiencing an issue with her acting out when I try to spend time with my friends. It has literally come to yelling matches and her making insensitive comments about them while they are present! I’m trying to be understanding since she has had health issues that have restricted her ability to get out for the past 6-8 months. I have two trips coming up this year with said friends and she normally takes care of the 2 dogs (Golden’s exceeding 100 pounds each). I’ve suggested boarding the dogs but she refuses. I know if I hire someone in to help out with the dogs (and also check on her) that she will say it isn’t needed. Does anyone have suggestions on how to rationally discuss these with her???? I’m really at a loss, as I feel she is going to take anything I say as an insult. Boarding the dogs will make her lonely, but would really reduce the risk of injuries while I am away. And I really need her to try to understand my spending time with my friends. She has me to help take care of her as she ages, but I am an only child for the most part. I’m 43 with no human children or spouse, and don’t see either of those situations changing. My friends are who I am going to have to rely on as I age. I just don’t know how to get that point across. She used to be very social until she retired and I know that is part of the issue. But she chooses to stay home to take care of the dogs (I try to get them to daycare once every two weeks) and know they would be well taken care of while boarding. Sorry this has been all over the place, but I just could use some opinions/suggestions!!!
confused in NC