I'm so frustrated. My 95 year old mother lives with me and I get so frustrated at times. She has health issues, but has firmly declined all further testing, so there isn't much her doctor can do. It is very likely that she has dementia, but that remains undiagnosed, also. She has many complaints, but is resistive to almost every suggestion I make. We have some help and volunteers coming into our house, which is helpful. Tonight was classic. I arrived home, worn out, from dealing with all of the issues in my administrative position today. My mom, who has had sensitive skin for years, immediately told me that she was itchy from the cold and dry skin. When I suggested we try Aveeno, like she used to use, instead of Eucerin, she interrupted immediately and told me that Eucerin was best for her. Yesterday, she didn't want to use the disposable hand warmers (she is ALWAYS cold) I bought because the directions say not to use them on sensitive skin. Those are 2 very minor, small examples, but it goes on and on. I really try not to argue about things with her. It doesn't help and it makes me frustrated beyond belief. I am an only child and she is a widow. Because of previous poor choices on her part, financial options are limited at this point. I know this all sounds petty, but this happens all of the time! I know that elderly people resist giving up control, and I understand it, to some degree. Yet, I'm the one who's supposed to handle things when they go wrong. She was stubbornly independent about a health issue this summer. When it finally became a medical emergency, I was the one who re-arranged my entire professional life to accommodate. I know that no one can say anything to change my situation. I'll keep her here as long as possible, and then she'll have to go on Medicaid and go to a nursing home; the application is currently in process. When the volunteers from her church, social group, and family come in, they see a sweet, gentle elderly woman. I see the stubborn, unreasonable, resistive side that is less than charming, and draining to deal with. I know that no one can change this for me, but thank you for listening. I appreciate it!