We lost my brother and my father in the span of a year, and my mom now finds herself living alone for the first time in her life. She is drinking too much (she is scared at night to be alone, but will not entertain assisted living or living with anyone else), forgetting meds entirely or taking the wrong amount, and wound up in the ER last week because she had been skipping her BP meds. She walks 2 miles a day, exercises, eats next to nothing, and knows that she is "off." She is paranoid about my restructuring her meds routine-I bought 2 locking automatic pill dispensers. She thinks we are "attacking" her behavior and critical of her drinking and nutritional habits. She has been diagnosed with mild cognitive decline, but that was a year ago. Her short term memory is very poor. I'm trying to forge some level ground here, but I feel like I'm walking through mud. Anyone have any advice or similar experience? Thanks in advance!