Mom's been in Memory Care for about 3 months. This move came after a terrible start at an AL where she was for only 3 weeks. She had a fall there which landed her in the hospital and rehab for 2 months. The AL would not take her back so we found a Memory Care facility which she seemed to like. Initially, she was participating in activities, was happy and making friends. Lately, though, she's saying she is going home and has stopped going to many of the activities. It's like she doesn't want to bother engaging with people she won't be seeing anymore. She knows what her home is (it's not like she's thinking about her childhood home). She talks about my brother's dog running down to visit her and missing that. It's too bad that the dog can't visit her in the facility but he has bitten her 4 times in the past and was voted off the island.
We still have her house although we are starting to clean it out and will be making a decision whether to sell or rent. She cannot ever move back there as she needs 24/7 assistance and in-home care did not work out. So, I struggle with what to say to her when she says she is "going home tomorrow". This happened in our phone conversation yesterday. I just said I was surprised and asked how was she going to get there. I then changed the subject and she didn't bring it up again. But, it's been happening more frequently and I am concerned that she is just sitting in her room now and not engaging with others.
Any suggestions on what worked for you? I've thought about saying the doctor has to sign off on any discharge and until her arm heals, she needs to be someplace where she can get assistance. Her arm will never completely heal so that is a reason that would work for a long time. Maybe this a phase and it will pass? Just when I thought we were going in the right direction and things were looking up too.