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She follows me all day long. She argues with me about everything even if I am not arguing! Is extremely bossy. She repeats everything I say and mimics all of my movements. Her delusions are getting worse all the time. is so nosy and always trying to be in my business. She is always bit--y to me! Only to me. Denial is her middle name. I know she can not help it but I need some ideas on how to handle all of this!

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First, you need some respite from her. Second, she probably has dementia unless you already know this. She is not doing any of this to get you upset as her brain is giving her scrambled messages. Either deal with it, or get her some professional care away from you. Not everyone is a dementia caregiver.
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Hello,

You have my total sympathy. My mom was the same but living under her own roof. Most amazing thing. She went into AL found her behavior unacceptable (they said, we are not serving her) and sent her to a senior behavioral clinic. Ten days later (and that was a year ago) she was calm, content, cheerful, and happy to see me.

An, no, she is not doped up. she plays bridge and beats everybody. Yesterday she went through cataract surgery and was a real champ.

Get thy mother to a geriatric doctor for the right meds!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And keep in touch!

Furthermore, you nee dot get out and have coffee with friends a few times week. Can that happen?
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First have her checked for a UTI

Have yourself a rum-toddy and join the club.
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Joysea, please learn everything you can about Alzhemier's/Dementia so you will understand why your Mom is acting that way and how to cope with it. Here are some very good articles from Aging Care that will help you https://www.agingcare.com/Alzheimers-Dementia, now scroll down to the articles.
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She follows you because she is insecure without you. She argues because she is in denial of losing her memory and her skills. The stage when they are still aware of their losses is awful for them. Logic won't work, so it is no use explaining it to them, but perhaps if you understand you will be kind and get her to a day care program, bring someone in to keep her company. Check with the Area Agency on Aging in your region to see if you can get 4 hours a month of volunteer visits.
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Lorazepam works great. Thats what they prescribed for my mother.
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Like Salisbury, my mom was sent to a behavioral unit when she was out of control. She came out on new meds and acting like a different person. I would never have guessed that her meds before she was admitted were either not the right meds or no longer effective. Meds make a big difference.
But no, they aren't always the whole answer. Everything else people are saying is sound advice as well.
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Mom is 99 and very much her own person. She is at the stage where she is very aware of her losses, ie; memory and skills. She is sweet but nasty, demanding and resentful but still cognitive enough to recognize when she is doing something inappropriate. She live in AL but does not get along with table mates any more thus she is frequently alone or the counselor at a table that is not on her level . She wont have a personal aide or use a wheelchair even though it is getting very hard for her to walk even with her walker. Stubborn as all get out which is keeping her alive! How do I know when it is the time for a nursing home or even hospice. I feel so incompetent with her care. At this age, shouldn't she have peace and happiness?
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{Q}She follows me all day long{EQ}
It is worth mentioning one of the common Alzheimer's behaviors is "Shadowing" wanting a LO near them at all times. {q}Not everyone is a dementia caregiver. {eq} so very true but then some of us have limited finances and are forced to be caregivers or else.... Browse the mainzone km site to a long page of resources to help you with all sorts of Alzheimer's Support by Experts for CareGivers
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