She claims she doesn't want to be a burden but in Reality this has been an excuse to be a miser all of her life. Every time there has been a need for her to spend money, she had to save "for the nursing home". However she is very naive about what a nursing home will be like. She thinks it will be like a cruise ship or spa visit.
In fact yesterday she was complaining about a relative who was calling her sister at least 4 or 5 times a day to come to the nursing home to help him with this or that. Mom said why doesn't he just buzz for someone. She thinks they will appear like a genie. I told her the homes are understaffed. My daughters are nurses and one worked in hospice care. The staffing problems are getting worse and worse. She thinks I just discourage her from going Into a home because I want her money. In actuality, I could never take care of mom. She is a big woman and I am getting older myself. And she has a personality problem of some sort, no friends, no one who likes her at all.
I guess my question is, does anyone else have a pRent who actually saved money all of their life to go to a nursing home? I have been hearing this since I was in High School and l am 62. Crazy