I finally got dad home from rehab again and he needs a nurse to care for him because he can only stand and pivot. He and mom are in an Assisted Living facility and I have hired a nurse to help. However mom (80 with ALZ) is abusing the CNA verbally and physically. She is being 100 percent unreasonable and says she can take care of dad. They will be married 60 years this summer. Dad is in the shape he is due to mom not pushing the button for help instead of helping him herself. He has had 3 strokes, 8 hrs of seizures, the flu and pneumonia in the last 6 mo. I moved them to the ALF because mom left him on the floor for 10 hours after a stroke, this was the beginning of his demise! She continues to reject help, dad falls due to this, hits his head, etc, etc. I am at my wits end and I don’t know what to do. They need to be separated or something but financially that will break the bank and dad will always ask for her. The caregivers said they have dealt with bad but never like my mom. I hope someone out there knows what I should do as we are without an answer right now. I just want to keep my dad safe ... from mom also!