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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Your sister has already made the right decision to not give up her life for her mom, and now you need to do the same. You should be working a full-time job in the career you've chosen and I assume love instead of only earning a measly amount working as your moms caregiver. And your partner should of course come first, not your mom. Any mom that truly loves their children would NEVER want them giving up their lives to care for them. That is just pure selfishness! If your mom can no longer live by herself then it's time to look into having her placed in the appropriate facility,(using her own money or Medicaid) and if she is still able to live by herself with care then she needs to hire an outside agency to come take care of her where you can get back to just being her loving son and not her burned out caregiver. You and your partner deserve better.
Mom isn’t intentionally trying to push your buttons, her oncoming dementia is impacting her behavior, and sadly will only worsen. Deciding in advance that you won’t consider options outside of you providing all the care is already costing you financially both now and in your future, and may cost you in relationships and personal health. None of us knows what’s to come, and dementia only heightens this. It’s admirable to want to care for your mother. Try to balance this desire with considering your own needs, this is what your mother, if healthy and whole, would want for you.
You are being a wonderful, loving son to your mother. BUT, you also need to be a loving and caring partner, and a good steward of your own life and future, for your own sake, and the sake of those who care about you, and who would be put in a position to take care of you when the need arises.
At 58, you do not have a huge amount of time in your professional career left. Get back into your professional career immediately! If you don’t, you will find yourself without it - both income and professional satisfaction in yourself - at the point where you most need it. Retirement is not easy. Income ends but expenses do not.
Your sister recognizes reality for herself. Respect her for that. If she understands she cannot do what you are doing hands-on for your mother, accept she is correct in understanding herself. Not all of us are cut out to be nurses or hands-on caregivers. I certainly am not, and I know it. Do not even consider any financial resources she and her husband may or *may not* have to be available to your perceived needs. Rental properties are not a source of unlimited wealth, and you simply cannot know what their real, private financial situation is, nor expect to use their assets.
You probably should cut back on time you are spending with your mother. If you are finding yourself frazzled and with a short temper, that is a sign you need to cut back for the good of both you and her. It’s not good for either of you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You should be working a full-time job in the career you've chosen and I assume love instead of only earning a measly amount working as your moms caregiver.
And your partner should of course come first, not your mom.
Any mom that truly loves their children would NEVER want them giving up their lives to care for them. That is just pure selfishness!
If your mom can no longer live by herself then it's time to look into having her placed in the appropriate facility,(using her own money or Medicaid) and if she is still able to live by herself with care then she needs to hire an outside agency to come take care of her where you can get back to just being her loving son and not her burned out caregiver.
You and your partner deserve better.
At 58, you do not have a huge amount of time in your professional career left. Get back into your professional career immediately! If you don’t, you will find yourself without it - both income and professional satisfaction in yourself - at the point where you most need it. Retirement is not easy. Income ends but expenses do not.
Your sister recognizes reality for herself. Respect her for that. If she understands she cannot do what you are doing hands-on for your mother, accept she is correct in understanding herself. Not all of us are cut out to be nurses or hands-on caregivers. I certainly am not, and I know it. Do not even consider any financial resources she and her husband may or *may not* have to be available to your perceived needs. Rental properties are not a source of unlimited wealth, and you simply cannot know what their real, private financial situation is, nor expect to use their assets.
You probably should cut back on time you are spending with your mother. If you are finding yourself frazzled and with a short temper, that is a sign you need to cut back for the good of both you and her. It’s not good for either of you.