How can we explain reality to her? My mom is on week 4 of post-stroke rehab. She has progressed, but she still can't walk or use her left arm. Her cognitive abilities are about 98 percent intact, so she is not demented. Even before the stroke, she was in major denial about being old and unable to care for herself in some ways. She lived alone and she seems to think she's going to go back to living alone. When I tell her she is going to need 24/7 care for the foreseeable future, she tells me that's ridiculous. When I point out that she can't walk or use her left (dominant) arm, she insists she will be able to recover all of that and live at home by herself. Furthermore, she needs 2 people or a lift to get her from bed to wheelchair.
I find this really upsetting, because I, as her only child, am going to have to either put her in a "home" or get her full time care in her own home. She is not going to accept either one of these options. I hate to feel like I'm forcing this on her and taking away her independence, but there's no other choice. How have you dealt with this siituation?