Mom is 89 and we have been living in the same home for 27 years. She keeps insisting that I take her home. Any advice?

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Mom has vascular dementia. I've had alarms installed so that she cannot run out, which she has tried to do.

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I suggest putting together a photo album of your mothers childhood photos that include her childhood home. Get photos from other family members, include some current photos (if you can) of her old home. A walk down memory lane will be good for her and you. It is sure would be easier than having to remind her constantly that she lives with you now or that her childhood home is in another state,etc.Even pictures of the home you grew up when your mother was a young mother may do the trick. Be creative, have fun with it and sit down once a day to go through the pictures with her.
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Hi Mary!! I did not see the name of poster with the negative information. I think her name says it : "Terrorist I M"
This is the one who thinks ALL parents should be honored for " taking care of us."
Fricking moron. Maybe it's her personal venting style. Antagonize other frustrated caregivers. Passive Aggressive specialist. Trouble maker.
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Of course, tell your already confused elder her house burned down. Horrible idea!!
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Falsehoods compound the confusion, especially violent images of fire burning down your house! What's the point? The idea is to reassure and keep her safe, not create a new problem.) xo
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My grandma does the same. She has Alzheimer's and is living way in the past. It could be that the home she is talking about is her childhood home. You can handle it a couple of ways. You can tell her that you will be going there soon (and soon becomes later) or else tell her that the fire burned it down and that is why you have a new home. You'll have to do it constantly (sorry) . I would also suggest having a deadbolt on the doors that require a key to open from the inside. I had to do that because my Grandma got loose a few times and once got in the street. I thought I would die when I found her there!
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Every day take her out for a drive. When you get home say. "We're home, Mom.
So great to be home." She doesn't understand, so just repeat what is true and reassuring. Keep it simple.
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