First of all, I am an only child. My mom had cardiac arrest about 2 years ago and has been in the hospital every day since. She was on a ventilator and thankfully weaned off. Lately the rehab have been working with her to walk and do things for herself. I work from home and although extremely stressed about our finances as I lost my high paying job over a year ago, I was going to try to provide care in home. The facility social worker started saying last week that mom would not get much home care as she is no longer sick. She needs help with getting around, bathing and bathroom. I did not understand this. I tried to get her moved to facility in town that provides more rehab and felt blessed she was accepted. Now the worker is saying the new facility wants to know where mom is going after this and oh by the way she now needs 24/7 care. What does that even mean? She did not lose any brain function and talks to me on the cell several times a day. I mean the main thing I see she has been left to lay down for about two years with no one paying me any attention when I voiced concern. Now at 70, her muscles are really weak and one leg locks up. She had arthritis before this happened however was completely mobile and drove everyday. Due to anxiety and finances, I was just now learning to drive and she drove me to work everyday. I don't know if I will be able to do this and feel like she was trying to press upon me how stressful this will be as I will still have to work. She also said again that the nurses are temporary and that I will need to apply for long term home health help. Mom is also on about 8 meds. I don't know what to do and we have no family. I turned 40 last year and have already started getting discriminated by jobs due to my age. I need to work and worry about my future. We were not getting along before she got sick and it had me very stressed. She would basically scream at me every day and it was basically the worse kind of verbal abuse anyone could imagine. If I am completely honest it is a lot of the reason I am not any further along in my life. Always being told how big a failure you are really takes its toll. This and dealing with episodes of depression have me second guessing if I should even take this on. I don't know how to tell her that I could not do this. So I was hoping more rehabilitation would help her get around better. I know things will never be the same but I would have no support and worry about being the statistic of the caregiver who passes before the patient. (To top it all off, the reason I lost my job was due to reporting harassment issues to management and being subsequently fired, thus making it harder for me to get a job. By the time I tried to sue it was too late. As you can imagine I had other things on my mind.) So I am just looking for some advice. People always think that just because you are single and young you are the perfect candidate to be a caregiver. I don't know what to do and have been crying and having panic attacks as time gets to closer to me being a caregiver. I know I was not made for this and just hope God forgives me if I cannot do it. My mom does not think of my future. I guess I don't expect her to now but she never really has. She used to tell me all the time she would not take out insurance because your children will try to do something to you to get the money. So now if something happens to her I would not even be able to bury her. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. I wish they paid people to take care of family in this state but I do not think that they do. As a Christian, I would try but the idea of staying in the house forever which is a one bedroom apartment by the way is depressing... We don't even have anyone to go to the grocery store for us. I was taking driving lessons but cannot afford after losing my job. I now rely on the bus. Someone please tell me what I can do as far as rehab options or just general advice to cope. Thanks and God bless yall who do this everyday.