I mentioned palliative care, but she dismissed it because she does not believe in it. She walks very gingerly and cannot stay on her feet for long periods of time. She sits in a chair with her eyes closed and brows furrowed, clearly in some kind of pain. When I offer ideas to help relieve the pain, she refuses because she is skeptical about their effectiveness. Do I let her be and wait for her to finally admit she needs help? Do I mention this to her doctor (who would have to swear to never tell her that I told them)? Will doctors that witness this kind of discomfort insist that she take something for pain or admit her to the hospital - even if she tells them that everything is fine? I have healthcare POA but if I invoke it, our already fragile mother-daughter relationship would fracture beyond repair.