My husband and I visited my parents today for an early Mother's Day and she really didn't even seem happy to see us. We live two hours away (my husband and I). I am an only child. My Dad lives in their independent living apartment and my Mom was hospitalized and after that has had to move to the skilled nursing unit in the same complex as she is too weak to be in the apartment and too much for my Dad to take care of. She refuses to eat quite often and also refuses physical therapy.
I know it was part of her personality before, but I would have thought she would be happier to see us. She always seems mad at my Dad and is argumentative with him and mad that he can't hear or pretty much at whatever he does or doesn't do. She had me and my husband keep busy with things she would think of for us to do rather than just enjoying being with us.
She even did not want some of her gifts we brought..saying she didn't want this or that and to return some. It is just so hard for me to be there after a while when it seems there is nothing anyone can do to make her happy.
I understand, although I know I am not in her shoes, that her life is difficult and she has several chronic health issues going on and has at times even talked about "stopping" dialysis and must feel pretty hopeless and sad.
I feel frustrated, angry and guilty when and after I visit. I don't like her being "mean" to Dad and am disappointed when the visits go as they did today. I know there are probably not any answers and I am venting..but if you have any insight or opinions please share.