Hello! Mom has been in an independent senior living place for a few years now. She has been getting progressively worse with hearing and dementia. Her short-term memory is practically gone now. She has caregivers in 24/7 now. She recently was hospitalized after a fall after getting out of bed in the middle of the night to use the bathroom. She banged her head and had a mild concussion and several cuts on her face requiring stitches. She contracted a C-diff infection in the hospital. We contacted the facility where she lives and they have a Memory Care available, but not immediately. She is back in her regular apartment with the 24/7 caregivers. The Memory apartment will be ready in about a week. Our task is to get her there, it's in the same building. All agree (siblings and staff at hospital, docter, etc.) that is where she should be. PROBLEM: She is extremely proud and in the past all suggestions were met with a fierce pitched battle. When driving was restricted...pitched battle. Moving to the senior living...pitched battle. After much arguing, crying, swearing, finally worn down and would accept. In this situation, she always looked down (filters gone) on the folks from memory care or assisted living and now she will end up there!
Any ideas how to approach it now? I know to use the "inform" don't "ask" technique. But exactly what to say? What if she becomes violent? Thanks in advance!