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It is empty, lonely and she is sad. PLEASE HELP ME!!! Can they MAKE HER STAY? Can they really charge her for an extra 6 weeks when she doesnt want to be there and feels unsafe?

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LyndaBishop, your Mom is in Assisted Living for a reason. What are her medical issues?
Where was Mom living prior to Assisted Living. Two months isn't enough time for Mom to get adjusted to her new residence.

It takes time, no different if any of us were moved on job transfers to a new city. My gosh, all the new things to learn. I know it took me months to finally feel settled in.

I agree with Barb above, so many times our love ones will say they want to move back home. That they don't like it there, etc. They will give every excuse in the book to move home. If your Mom has dementia, the "home" may not mean where she was previously living, it means her childhood home where she grew up.

Do you visit Mom the same time each time you see her? Try visiting when she least expects you. You might be surprised to find Mom enjoying herself talking with other residents and being at the activities. Of course, it depends on her medical issues.
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Is it really empty? Is she the only client?

What mom is saying sounds so much like what a lot of folks say when they first move to AL.

Where was she living before?
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Dear Lynda,

I'm very sorry to hear how your mom feels. I know its hard paying for additional 6 more weeks if your mom wants to leave now. I would check with the manager and see if they can make an exception, but it all depends on the terms and conditions of the contract. I hope you can make alternate arrangements for your mom soon.
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Why does she feel unsafe? Is it understaffed as well?
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I wonder if it might be a good idea to try to stick it out a few more weeks. As they get more people enrolled and organize more activities, etc. the place will probably be more appealing to Mom. Can you help her through it by taking her (and maybe a friend she has made there) on outings? Can you join her for meals once in a while?

They can't make her stay, but the contract may have a clause about how far in advance notice has to be given, so it is possible she will have to pay. As others have said, read the agreement.
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Lynda, read the admission agreement; it should address this kind of situation. If it doesn't, perhaps it's time for a nice sit-down meeting with whoever told you this and find out the specific documentation source for this claim.
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I would contact the administrator and discuss what her contract or term to see if she is bound by a legal contract to stay...and then make your decision...in all situations knowledge is power..the more research you can do before you go...is better for you...get your ducks in the row...use the internet and do some research..look on their website and read through they bylaws and the contract that was signed...it is all what is in the contract..
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