I placed my mom in a great assisted living group home 2 weeks ago and the facility is saying that she is too much for them to handle. What do I do?

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I cared for her for 2 years and did not have problems with her wandering or trying to escape. They say she goes into the rooms of the other residents and takes things. She also hides in the closet and pulled the clothes and hanger pole down on herself. She tried to escape out the window. She disturbs all the residents talking all the time and telling crazy stories. My mom at 90 is very active and is in excellent health with the exception of her mind. They want me to put her in a psychiatric program at a hospital and say if she can be managed by meds they will let her stay there. What do I do.

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I think Memory Care. There are similar patients where Dad is, & the staff just works thru it all. I think the only issue that they can't deal with is threat of or actual physical abuse by the patient.
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Med management for a week or two at at psych hospital is a common practice. You could try to move her to a Memory Care center, but they might have the same problem, and they would recommend the same thing. If I was in your situation, I would choose the psych hospital - but only if your physician recommends a good one.
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Jamie
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maricopadeb, your Mom might need to be in an Assisted Living/Memory Care facility as such a facility has the knowledge about Alzheimer's/Dementia so they know how to deal with certain situations. Sounds like the Group Home may not the right fit for your Mom :( And I don't know if Mom is given more time to adjust would be of help. Your Mom has been there only 2 weeks, so it could be she feels lost.

Wandering can happen at a drop of a hat, as you know dementia doesn't remain on the same level month after month. I know I was surprised when the Staff at my Dad's Independent Living facility said it was time for me to move him over to their Memory Care section.

Yes, I have heard where the right combination of meds would help your Mom to calm down, but it takes a lot of trial and error to find the right mix. You could give that a try and if it works, then Mom can return to the Group Home. As we all know what your Mom is doing plus the story telling isn't her fault, it's the darn disease.
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Your mom is beyond assisted living with these behaviors. You might want to look into both meds to handle her anxiety and a memory care home which is better at handling these behaviors. Mthr has been well managed by diversion, and MC staff has needed a minimum of drugs to help her cope. People entering others rooms at mc will always be a problem, so don't leave any valuables. I left scientific journals we hoped to donate to a school, and these were hoarded by another resident who was moved out to a psych unit because of her widespread thievery. She was not suitable for MC, but they too wanted to give her a chance before that step.
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