If my mom is in a nursing home, can my sisters just go and take her out?

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Lacs75401, I am sorry if I may have offend you by the Catholic Guilt comment, someone on here thinks I may have, Being one of 9 kids yourself, I am sure you have heard that comment a time or two and understand where I came from. I personally just want to make sure YOU are not offended by the comment; it was meant to try to make you smile while trying to work through your situation. Bless your heart and know that I am here to listen and be a tool to help you through this and any other situation. I honestly did not mean to offend YOU by the Catholic comment; it is just said to me being I am the youngest of 6 children. If YOU are Catholic, then you totally understand where I am coming from.
Bless you!
Bridget
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I would speak to the facility Social worker or Administrator ASAP about this, let them know what is happening. Is one of the "mean" sisters a medical POA? If she is, I am not sure how that works, the SW and or Administrator of the facility would know, please consult with them ASAP. Do they think they can take care of her at home? The change in environment alone make shock her and make her worse and put her in a state that they may not be able to bring her back from. Bless your heart for having to do through this. It could be their guilt coming through, Catholic? I ask, because you said (kids, I am youngest of 6, and Catholic and I had a brother who became that way and I know it was out of guilt. They come in and try to play "white knight" to try and say the day to ease their own pain and not thinking of what is best for your mother. It seems what is best for your mother is to stay where she is safe in her current place where she has been for four years. I would speak to the facility and ask them for help and advice ASAP.

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Bridget
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What a terrible situation you are in. I would talk to your sisters (out of mom's hearing, of course) and tell them that if they have your mother's best interest at heart, to stop the nonsense, as long as you are sure their claims are unfounded. Tell them exactly what you wrote - that your mother's day should be peace-filled and not this chaotic scene you describe. If they refuse to cooperate, I would go as far as to mention it to your mother's physician and have him tell them that it is not in your mother's best interest to behave in this manner. Good luck to you.
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If neither of the two complainers have medical POA they can't take her out wihtout your permission and you can get with her doctor to back you up in keeping her where she is. If they are disturbing ot your mom as well as to you, you could even ask for a visitor restriction or allow visits only out of the room while you are there, or whatever. But really- unless conditions are actually bad, or meds inappropriate, their complaining is just their guilt and wishful thinking talking. Maybe they don't get, or don't want to get, that mom has Alzhemier's and is declining, so they blame the care, the meds, the other siblings, etc. And if it really came to taking her out of the skiled nursing facility and caring for her at thier house, they most likely won't even try - that way they can just go on complaining and claiming they "could have" done better without ever being put to the test.
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noone has POA My sister and I have Medical power of attorney. She has Alzheimer and is in the final stages, She knows noone any longer. They are two sibbling out of 9 four of us have been here taking care of mom and the two that do not think mom is getting proper care live about an hour away and see her once a year. They come to the nursing home take pictures, talk bad about the care she is getting, tells people that the older sisters are trying just to kill mom. Just very mean , saying things to the aide( demands) Mom has lived there for over 4 years and she can at this time no longer walk feed her self or go to the bathroom on her own. I hate that my sisters go into her room take pictures of her and grip as though she isn't there II just want my moms last days to be safe and peaceful. I feel there is something I can do but just don't know what it is. thank you
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Is one of your sisters POA? Does the NH say she is ready to be released? Is she being abused? Why do they want to take her out? Where do they want to take her?
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