Dad and I are confident she is in the early stages of AD/Dementia based on a year+ of worsening symptoms. She begrudgingly agreed to an appointment with her internist which lead to an MRI with results that said nothing appeared unusual for her age. There has been no further action by her doctor, even after Dad explained his concerns during that appointment, and after I wrote the doctor a letter before her next check up to explain her symptoms in detail.
I fear we are wasting time when Mom could be getting tests or medications to slow the progression. Dad is afraid to push her any further b/c he doesn't want to anger her. So he covers for her, finishes her sentences when she struggles, and barely lets her out of his sight. She is loving the attention and security she feels by rarely being alone. Dad is getting stressed, while I cycle through anger, fear, resentment, and grief. I don't want to make it easy for her to live in denial when it's so early in the stages and she could be getting treatment.
Do we wait until there is a defining event that is so scary that no one can ignore it any longer?
I'm also terrified that I'll resent both of them if something happens to Dad's health, and I have to become the primary caregiver after she has spent all of this time in denial.
Thanks in advance for your help.