I have been sort of watching out for my mom (she lives a mile away) and she does have dementia. Both good and bad days. You know, where sometimes she's sharp as a tack and others, yikes!
One thing I'm noticing -- and she has issues with me, as I do with her, so that complicates things -- is she does not listen to me.
We had a social worker come by last week, and this lady was going over some options to make things easier for me (the only family she has) and for her.
My mom did listen to some things this lady said (and unfortunately got some things wrong, because she doesn't hear and doesn't listen well).
But I do notice my mom does not want to listen to me. I try to explain things to her: For example, her doctor has given her two prescriptions to be filled at Meijer because they are free there. My mother first was happy because she saves a few bucks. (Guess who has to go pick them up for her, though, among a bunch of other stuff?) Now, she's confused, and says "oh the doctor is obsessed with me going to Meijer for some reason." I tried to explain it's a way to save some money: These two types of pills are free. They don't cost you anything, etc. I try to say it in a few different ways hoping it'll stick, but it doesn't.
I get frustrated and it doesn't help things, but I notice she does not listen to me. My husband can say something to her and she'll listen better.
I know some of it is old age and confusion and being hard of hearing, but I'm being driven crazy because I swear she is just blocking me out. Then she accuses me of not listening, but she's actually accusing me of what I think she is doing! It's gotten to the point where it's nearly impossible to have a conversation with her.