Mom is 88 years old and can't walk except with a walker. She lives in her house alone. Won't move even if she could afford to. I feel responsible for fixing her problems since she has no one else except my brother who won't do much, He takes her to the doctor or once in a while will get her something from the drugstore. Here are a few examples: Mom put her robe in the hamper to be washed. Then couldn't find the other robe (she can't wear nightgowns). Its winter in Maryland and she is always cold. Won't turn up heart cause of cost. So she went to bed wearing a shirt and underpants until the woman who washes the clothes washed the robe. I told her I'd buy another robe, get it hemed and mail to her. I live 1 1/2 hours away and won't drive the beltway. Then she is upset that she doesn't have many stamps left and she has bills to pay. Brother won't come over for a while and she needs stamps. I go buy her stamps and mail them right away. Bit upset that the stamps might be lost in mail, they were once before. Anxious until she calls and said stamps arrived. Then dishwasher won't work. She has COPD and is hard for her to have to wash dishes by hand. Woman who helps mom by washing clothes won't do it, brother won't was dishes. So she has to she says. She won't leave dishes in sink and do a little at a time. I'm worried that she will have physical problem, get sick, something. She won't buy new dishwasher until brother researches it and picks dishwasher he wants her to get. He has personality disorder and she is co-dependent with him. I'm thinking should I drive over and measure the dishwasher and buy one and come back when it is delivered. That means upset and difficult mom and yelling brother each visit. And mom telling me she has to live with brother not me. He will keep complaining and drive her crazy about me buying dishwasher. He stays at her place three or four days a week. I could go on and on. The stress is really getting to me.