We have guardianship over my mother. Of course, she constantly tries to say lies about me now to my wife. These statements hurt. I told you folks earlier that my mother had amassed $55,000 in debt - which I was able to settle btw. It's cleared up. She calls my wife in various stages of hostility, contriteness, friendliness. This time, she was friendly and wants my wife to take her shopping. She got my wife to agree, but then said that she (my mother) wracked up $55,000 in debt to purchase a house in my name - which is a lie. I'm trying very hard to let this stuff "roll off " and "detatch", but this time, it just sat wrong. I have asked my wife to remind my mother that if she hears lies about me or her finances, she (my wife) won't help her or interact with her. I said to my wife that I don't want to tell her what to do, but I really needed some defense here, and I don't think I got it. Any input?