I moved in almost a year ago to help and dad ended up in hospital for nearly 3 months. Im not sure if his own thinking is blurred by that, or age, or just denial but he doesn't seem to understand that correcting my mom isn't effective and makes her very upset. I spend most days entertaining her, taking her to exercise class when she'll go, watercolor class, etc and if I don't, she's left to wander around the house unless he watches a movie with her. All he seems to want to do is practice piano. I worry that if I'm not doing activities with her, no one will and as a result, I'm kind of stuck here. I also worry about his temper when he gets impatient and she goes to her room sobbing. I also feel strongly that his collapse last year was a result of the stress of caring for her. I suggested a caregiver for a few hours once or twice a week but he's unwilling to let anyone but me help out, or suggests she can spend time at my brother's, even though he says it's not fair to me and only suggests bringing her to my brother's if she can be useful. (he wants her to do useful activities, which to me seems to be completely missing the point of what's happening to her -- i just want her doing things that will keep her stimulated and "usefulness" doesn't even come into it, but maybe I'm totally wrong, I don't know, am I?) I'm not sure how much control I should try to take at this point - not only with the caregiver (really just a companion and preferably a Mary Poppins who has fun things to do) but with his temper. Do I intervene when he starts questioning what she's doing or force him to apologize when he loses his temper or just deflect or what? What is my proper role as the daughter? How much am I supposed to intervene?