My mother is a recovering addict who has been clean for about 5 years, but not by choice. She was weaned from the drugs by her boyfriend. Our family would like to be involved and keep up on her condition, but her boyfriend has been successful at ostracizing her from everyone for about 20 years now. I really have no idea how to move forward. She is currently living in a nursing home and her boyfriend has instructed them that we are to know nothing about her condition. We live on the other side of the U.S. and I am afraid that if she passes, or something happens, we will never know. As a child, she left us and went to live on the streets due to her addictions. She's elderly now, especially with her condition that leaves her without the ability to communicate effectively. It saddens me to stop trying to communicate with her, but it's been an uphill battle for so many years. Any advice on how to go about supporting her on a long distance basis when the boyfriend has threatened the nursing home staff if we do contact her?