I have been caring for my mother since my dad passed in 2002. She never drove or worked so I had to resume her care when my dad passed. I moved her to different places independently and for a while she was fine. Fast forward several years I finally moved her to assisted living. She was there for a little over 2 years. That became unaffordable and I had no other choice but to move her in with me. So for the past full 1year this March she has been under my roof. Her health is declining much faster than in the assisted living, her compression fractures in her back cause her constant pain and that is near impossible to control at this point. I have not had a break in the past year at ALL. I am borderline losing everything I worked for. She is selfish and always has been. I have a sister who refuses to help. I am a 44 yo male who has stepped out of a career and workforce just so at the end of the day I can say "I took care of my mother" What am I doing? I can't do this any longer. I can't get home health, I do pay someone to come and help her shower 2x a week. Is it time for a nursing home and to waive the white flag? I feel defeated! Any suggestions would be appreciated. BTW my mom is 77 years old with only mild dementia. Nothing major. Her major health issues are the compression fractures in her spine and atrial fib, which means protime checks about every 2 weeks and that is a fiasco.