My Mom, who lives in southern Indiana, is 73 years old, recently widowed and was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer 11 months ago- just a few months before Dad passed away. Four months ago Mom was told she had 3-4 months to live as her cancer was spreading and the best option was to discontinue treatments as it would do her more harm then good. Mom is on oxygen, taking lots of pain med's and is no longer able to live on her own. She uses a wheelchair to get around but needs help bathing, etc. Her pain levels are increasing.
My brother put Mom in assisted living 4 months ago and simultaneously put my parents house up for sale. Assisted living is $5,000 a month and Mom is blowing through her savings quickly and the house is not selling even after a few huge price drops. Mom can only make 2 more months assisted living payments and without the house selling she will not be able to afford her current AL payment.
I'm not sure what to do. Should we consider applying for Medicaid now? Mom would have to move to a shared bed nursing home if on Medicaid which would be devastating to her as she is still with it right now but I'm not sure that we have any other choice. Mom lives close to my brother (he is her POA) but his house is not conducive to someone in Mom's condition plus he has three small girls. I live out of state and am thousands of miles away. Dad was in the Navy but I don't know if that would be of any help to Mom right now as far as benefits. I feel so stressed and confused. Please help. Any info is appreciated... Please let me know if I should move this post to another topic board.