I have let myself be guilted into loaning her money for 10+ years but now the gambling seems like it’s escalating (several thousands to her this year) and now I’m retired and can’t keep doing this. I’m worried about her and also afraid to call (she lives in another state about 500 miles away) since she gets very mean. I’ve called help lines and gone to counseling and know that I need to stop covering her gambling debts but still very worried. Nothing I say seems to really make a difference and really my mom is only satisfied if I give her money and doesn’t want to hear anything. She didn’t used to be like this but now is lonely and doesn’t have any friends and won’t reach out. She doesn’t like my suggestions and honestly doesn’t like me so I don’t know how to help but I know I’ve got to stop covering gambling losses. I am ordering food for her from her grocery store which she appreciates but says I’m treating her like a child by not putting the money she wants in her account. She won’t be able to pay her bills this month but could catch up in a couple of months if she stopped gambling. Sometimes she’s saying things did or didn’t happen that aren’t accurate so I don’t know if that’s just wishful thinking or she’s starting to get confused. There aren’t any other immediate family members. Any ideas would be welcome.