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Mom gossips a lot. What to do?

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My mother is 75 and I will be 49 not only does she treat me like a 15 year old and constantly calls me to tell me what to do (I have a 30 year old and 2 grandkids) but she constantly gossips between my siblings and other family members about mine and everybody else business even if it's not true. When visiting her home town a couple of weeks ago for church homecoming half the church which were family members didn't even talk to her. The things that she say,are a lot of time not true and simply painful. I hate upsetting her when I tell her to stop but what to you do? Also, she can just be flat out rude when she talks to me. I getting fed up!!!!

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re-married for 30 years.
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Yes she has always been that way. I know it has nothing to do with age. She has been divorced from my dad for 40 years and still talks about what my father didn't do for us kids 49, 53 and 56. Dad has been married for 30 years. It's sad but I want tolerate it because I don't want that poison in my life or the life of my offsprings.
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Ok, it may be time to stop taking her out in public, because her social filters are gone. Her MD should be alerted to her change of behavior. He may be able to prescribe medications that calm her down.
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Why be bothered that she is upset if you call her out on her shenanigans? As long as she is mentally competent, perhaps she needs to be upset. If she's telling untruths and hurting family member's feelings, she should be upset. Maybe, that will impress upon her the seriousness of the situation and she will stop doing it.

Has she always been this way? If not, I'd question what is causing her behavior. It could signal some problem. But, if not, I wouldn't pretend that everything is fine and I wouldn't tolerate it.
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That is true!!!
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KRhones, sounds like your Mom is very bored thus the whole family and the whole town is her soap opera, and to get even more attention she probably exaggerates and makes up stories.

I see from your profile that your Mom lives in Independent Living, so she is probably the town crier. Where my Dad lives, these ladies are quite the busy buddies.

Mom needs a hobby to keep herself busy so she can talk about the hobby more then the family/town.
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