Mom has vascular dementia, lives alone next door to my sister. Short term memory is limited, walks with walker, and doesn't do much of anything without someone pushing her to. She's managing as best as possible, but sis works and I live an hour away. We want to keep her in home as long as possible and not in a facility. Home health started last week (Nurse, Aide for bathing, and PT to help with simple exercises). Often, I'm present when one of these HH people are there - when they ask her questions, she lies or gives them wrong information. (Ex: She tells nurse she wears her Depends at night, when I know she didn't because they aren't on her or in trash.) Everything I've read says not to contradict/argue/correct.......but she's giving wrong information to these people who need to know truth in order to provide services she needs. She's never out of the room so I can give the info in private, so I usually give the correct info in front of her in a factual, non-confrontational way......but I can see by the frown on her face she doesn't like it. She will tell the doctor she's "fine, just fine" at every visit, but when I bring up a pressure sore or edema - she glares at me. She had been telling the Home Health people not to come when they called to let her know they were coming - because she's lazy and just doesn't want to make the effort for them. I've told them in front of her that I have Medical and Durable POA, and that she does not make that call anymore - and to come no matter what she says. Then I feel terrible for being the "bad guy" - but everything my sis and I do for her is to keep her as healthy and safe as possible and out of Nursing Facility - I tell her that often. Opinions? Advice?