Mom needs help adjusting the temperature in the shower. Ok, while I'm fiddling with the knobs I notice that she has pushed the liner all the way around the back of her shower seat and water is already on the tile floor. The temp is fixed, hand her the shower head and pull the liner around while saying very casually/nicely that water was getting on the floor because the liner is out and she could slip. She started yelling NO, doesn't want it out at all! This is a safety issue, so I keep my voice down but insist that the liner has to be in because she could slip and the water all over the floor could cause a leak etc.
Well she just starts yelling and screaming to GO AWAY/LEAVE ME ALONE/I HATE IT HERE etc. I tried to calm her and say it's just for safety, we always have the liner in, don't want you to slip and get hurt etc. She then smacked the curtain liner all the way open so the water would really get everywhere. Still screaming LEAVE ME ALONE, I HATE IT HERE really screaming and loudly crying as if she was being tortured!!
Is it really unreasonable to ask/insist that it's good to try to make sure shower water doesn't get all over a tile floor (and the bat mat was soaked to) for safety?!
I am frequently so surprised when seemingly normal everyday helpful things cause such an extreme and hostile reaction that is strongly directed at me as being some kind of oppressor or horrible person. Now she will not speak to me the rest of the day or if she does it will only be a guilt trip to tell me how I ruined her day by upsetting her etc. I feel like I am on another planet.