It took forever to get my mom who lives with us to pay us $1,000.00 a month for room and board and food and transportation wherever she goes.. to doctors
Pick up medications
to casino.
Etc..
She has O2 going 24/7 a machine that uses eletricity.. has tv going 24/7.. we grocery shop for her.
We cook all meals for her. Do all household chores.
She does not want to help out. She says to me one day.. " I have done my share over the years. I had to raise you and your brother, feed you guys and put clothes on your back. Take you to school pick u up.. etc... So, I decided I did enough.
She never ever had to work as my dad supported her.
My brother has always been her favorite... he got away with everything. Never paid back $$ he bortrowed. Was given family business. Trucks.. the list went on. My only sibling, my brother, passed in 2007.
My mom has always been hard on me and I am never good enough...
Anyways... the family trust is now set up for 1/2 to go to me & other 1/2 to my brothers 3 boys.
Since my mom needed care after her fall in 12-24-2015 breakibg her hip. Then recovered and fell and broke other hip.. after recovering she had a TIA and recovered.. cat bite and recovered... unable to drive now and live by herself... After 4 years of me going back n forth from hubbys house and moms ... my hubby and I bought our dream home. Mom decided to move with us. Now she refuses to help out.. it has just became so frustrating...
She was refusing to pay a penny. But now she is paying out if her personal checking... that money is to go just to me not my nephews after she passes.
So I feel the $$ shoukld come out of the family trust? My nephews do not help with any of my moms care. So it's just me....
Not once did I even think about what inheritance I would receive from my parents when I was helping them out. They were frugal, made good investments, Mom was a stay-at-home wife and her days with filled with so many chores, I don't know how she did it all. That was their money to use for their final care. I was so glad they had funds for a "rainy day" as in their 90's it was really storming out there.
In your profile you mention your Mom has mobility problems, that alone can make it hard to help out with chores. Any other health issues? If not, then your Mom must be on the younger side. I do agree that you Mom should be paying something to you for the extra utilities, extra groceries, etc.
I would forego half of the trust for my sanity.
I would take the money in the trust and use it to pay for Assisted Living in a facility and get her out of the house.
Unless you NEED the $1000 you are currently getting to stay in your "dream house"