First a little background: My parents moved in with me 12 years ago when my father was in congestive heart failure and on the transplant list. 3 months after moving in he received his new heart and stayed in the hospital for 3 months. Since then has been relatively healthy we have had some scary times with pnuemonia and infections that have landed him in the hospital but surprisingly he has done very well. My mother has been his main caregiver and I have been here to support and help out. Now the tables have turned my mother was putting on her pajamas while standing up and lost her balance breaking both her hip and her wrist in January of this year. She has had surgery and had to stay in a rehab facility and then came home and had therapy and was in a wheelchair, then walker and now a cane. My father became her caregiver and has been very helpful at first when we brought her home I stayed down with them but taught him what she needed and he very soon took over. Long story short she had a horrible time while in rehab and as a result was only there for one week when the original plan was to stay for 6 to 8 weeks. I was able to get her out due to the home support that she had. Now she is afraid of everything falling, being sent back to "the home" when the therapist came she would be fine while they were here and then when they left she would cry because they hurt her. If she goes to a store and the floor is shiny and looks slippery she will not even try to walk on it she will turn around and want to go home. My dad gets very nervous taking her out because he never knows if she is going to just start freaking out. Other than high blood pressure she is very healthy physically but I worry about her being fearful. I go down to check on her and she starts crying and begging me not to send her back to the home and then other days she is great pays all her bills walks around without the cane and very positive. Is she just getting older and is scared? Is this the start of dementia? I tried talking to my dad and he just says shes fine and then he leaves with his slippers on and forgets his shoes. So of course I worry about him as well and his state. Any advice? I told her physician that she seems to be scared all of the time and he said sure she is who would not be. Any suggestions on how I can make her more comfortable and not so fearful? Also, how do I know this is not the start of dimentia?
Thank you all so much for your support