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My mom fell. In rehab. How do I I tell her she can't go home but needs to go to assisted living?

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How do I tell her she can't go home and needs assisted living?

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Willow123, my Dad hated to spend money and always was fugal, thank goodness he had money tucked away for those rainy days.

The cost of his Independent Living apartment plus having 24 hour caregivers with him was costing him $25k a month. Dad had been mentioning he wanted to move into a smaller apartment, I told him about the suite over in Memory Care [next building] and that it would cost him $10k a month plus having two of his caregivers just for mornings. He liked that idea :)

So it depends on if your Mom is in tuned with costs and budgets. I was just lucky that it was my Dad's own idea to move out of his house with all those stairs into a senior apartment. He liked having people around him that were closer to his age.

My Dad wasn't keen on drinking liquids either, in his mind the less the drank the less times he needed to try to get to the bathroom. He didn't realize how dehydration can affect him. Also, the doctor lowered his blood pressure pills as when Dad would stand up he would get lightheaded... lowering the dosage helped.
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Does she have cognitive decline? Do you know why she's fallen again? Depending on the circumstances, I might explain that the doctor feels she needs it for extra help over the next few months. And he very well feel that she needs it. You can ask the doctor what he thinks .

You can then play it by ear. My cousin went when her doctor said she needed it. There she could get her therapy, medication, assistance with bathing, transport to doctors, etc. It just made sense. She soon forget that she didn't live there.

If she isn't going to have the support at home that she needs, it's not fair to her really. Sometimes, seniors don't have a realistic idea of what help they need. And it's almost impossible to convince them.
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How did you tell him he was moving to assisted living similar circumstances
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My mother fell 3 times in 2 days. 2 months ago,I hired in house companion care.
To be with her and to,get her to eat and drink. She doesn't eat and drink water that caused the falls. My dad died a year ago. She wanted to move so we moved her in December but she can't take care of her self. The caregivers are inconsistent some better than others when they come to her place
Good questions thank you wish you,the best.
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Willow, what was the reason that made your Mom fall? How many times has she fallen in the past year? Does she use a cane or a walker at home? What is her age, and are there any other health issues?

If Mom can afford Assisted Living, could she afford someone to be a paid caregiver during the day? Just trying to think of options.

My Dad was a huge fall risk, so he wanted to move from his 3 story house into some place safer. He liked this one senior living facility so he moved into Independent Living and he had part-time paid caregivers who came in every morning for a few hours. Eventually he had to move to Assisted Living/Memory Care because he was falling too much and his memory was slipping.
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