I moved out of house to go to college at 18 yrs old. Lived and moved around for my job till I was 47! I met someone and got married. At 81 I built a house and moved them closer to me. Now 10 min away. I have pushed my mom in trying to tell me what she wants. I have in the past guessed what she wanted or needed an the end result is my burnout. My father is 85 an they both live in independent living! She really does care for him as an aid would. She feels it saves money in the future even though my brother an myself tell her to spend some money on paid caregivers. My mother tells me " I took care of my mom" meaning I need to do the same! My brother buries his head in the sand. I am gong and have gone way over an above the call of duty as a daughter! She's trying to guilt me an says I make mountains outa molehills! She wants what she wants when she wants it!