We are her only caregivers and she cannot be left alone. She receives $1000 per month for SS and retirement combined. She stayed with previous family members and they used all of her money for themselves. None of her medical bills have been paid and she was left home alone the whole time. We are sure she did not receive her meds on a regular basis either. Now that we have taken over trying to pay these bills off is costing more than she has coming in. We have to add money so they can be paid off. What do we do?
Why do you feel u can't get A&A? I understand that it is for Mothers care not to pay bills. This means care in the home or in a AL/nursing facility that you r private paying for. Must be in WWII or a conflict such as Korea or Nam. We on this site don't have all the answers. You need to contact you VA to find out what your Mom is entitled to.
Have you read the VA website about eligibility? My understanding is that mom or her spouse would need to have served in the military during a time when the US was at war, but not necessarily in a war zone.
Do you have a local VFW you could contact?
Above all, do not pay anyone to complete VA paperwork for you.