Is there anything I can do about mom doing a will years ago now that things have changed?

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My mom did her will 4 years ago. I am the oldest child and have taken care of mom and Dad for over 15 years. Dad has passed 5 years ago. Mom failed But I stayed with her and took care of her as long as I could. The other 2 (sons) have taken money from her, stole her coin collection and have not been in touch for years. BUT they went after her before my Dad's grave was buried and got $13,000 each (gift) . Then it went on and on. The one step brother who is 8 years young then I has beat me up twice because I stepped in on all the money being handed to him, he was sneaky . I finally had to move out of state, I am afraid of him. Mom came also and I did my homework on finding her an affordable place to live with Medical care as she needed at this point. No help from the boys.. She has dementia . At the time of her will, none of the dysfunction was predicted. I feel that if there is even a dime left the boys should get nothing. One son lied and said she took an overdose to get her removed from her house so he could continue to live there free. It is shameful. I feel neither one of them deserve a penny. Meanwhile, the list of what I do and paperwork is unbelievable.. Can if need be, contest the will based on the fact I took care of my parents? Also the fact that thousands were handed to the boys after Dad passing?

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I wanted to add something after giving your situation more thought.

If you have moved your mother away from your step-brothers - are denying them access - you are likely doing yourself and your situation more harm than good. Should you be able to change the will or create a trust, you are giving them ammunition to challenge using reasons such as undue influence and isolation. I'm not saying that's what you're doing - just playing devils advocate. In addition, some states have passed a "visitation bill" making it illegal to deny access of an elder by other family members. This bill was introduced and is lobbied by the daughters of American disc jockey Casey Kasem, who's wife denied access to her step daughters to see their father. This legislation is also pending in many states.

Do yourself a favor and seek legal advice before you do something you'll regret.

And while this is just my opinion - you're kidding yourself if you don't see that this is indeed about punishment.
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If it's not about money, leave it alone. As you say - they will answer to their ways.
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Yes, if you are exploring Trusts, make sure the attorney is experienced in drafting Trusts, because not all attorneys who do Simple Wills handle trusts.
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I'm not 100% sure but if you have POA you might be able to create a Trust. Put the remaining assets...house, bank accounts, retirement accounts in a trust and then choose beneficiaries. Usually Eldercare lawyers give a free first time consultation.
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I'd seek legal advice on what your remedy options might be. Getting a person who has dementia to sign a new Will.....well....there are all kinds of issues. Seek legal advice. I hope there are some options. Sadly, wrongdoers seem to profit from their behavior at an alarming rate. Life is certainly not fair.
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Not trying to punish them at all. I even mailed them the photo's mom had of them growing up to pass down. It's not about the money for me, I can make it. It is about the abusive ways they treated mom and myself to be greedy. I had to move. Doctor's suggested it for mom's sake. They can answer to God. It's about not feeding into anymore greed, which is evil.
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All I can suggest is consult and eldercare lawyer. and don't throw good money after bad trying to punish the wrongdoers.
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