My mom is starting to refuse getting up in the morning. I have been going to the nursing home every morning to help the aides. All she will do is cry and say she's tired. She wants to die. She is very confused and very scared and says "I can't believe this is happening" (she means the incontinence which she is freaked out about and CANNOT ACCEPT). I can finally convince her to get up but it is taking it's toll on me. I feel I cannot do it anymore. If I don't go I am left with the image of my mom crying and the aides FINALLY getting her into her wheelchair where she stares at her breakfast. It's a horrible thought for me that I cannot bear. What do I do?