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My Mom (92) lives with us. She has not been diagnosed with any dementia. My husband and I care for her but she is semi-independent, no longer drives and needs attention. I am caring for three older children at home one with special needs. I am her only child.

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My dad has said to this to me several times. Its his way of trying to manipulate me. He usually says this when he doesnt get his way. I just say "ok".
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My mother in law, who had only her social security to live on, threatened my husband with this all the time. It would have been funny had it not been so sad.

People who think that they must use money to bend others to their will are very insecure folk. They deserve our pity, but I believe we should stand up to them and call their bluff.
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Adeline, does your Mom also threatens to hold her breath until she turns blue? Next time she says she will change her Will, hand her a pen :)
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This is pure extortion. Tell her "Go ahead and change the Will, my father left me a million. I don't need your money." She may have to think about that for a bit. If she presses you for details, keep her hanging. Two can play that game.
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"That's fine, Mom. I'll drive you to the lawyer when you have an appointment. Or let me know when the attorney is coming here and I'll be sure there are fresh cookies on hand for the visit."

Just sweetly call her bluff. It is her money and she can change her mind about what to do with it as often as she wants.

But speaking of money, I hope she is paying room and board with you. You might mention having that little detail formalized the next time she talks to her lawyer.

This does not necessarily sound like dementia, but more like a silly attempt at manipulation. Do keep your eyes and ears open for other symptoms, however. It is the entire picture that tells the story.
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What do you do/say when she makes this statement? Is she wealthy or at least comfortable? Find several Independent/Assisted Living facilities and let her choose. Set a date for her to move out and stick to it!
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