I am an only child with no children. My father is deceased for about 15 years. Mom will be 88 in November, and has been healthy as a horse for all of her life. Not even a cold. Last September, she started having blood pressure problems and nausea, and after numerous doctors visits and emergency rooms, no one found out what the problem, until in December, she fainted and threw up blood. She had an ulcer. After this, she is not the same person. She literally lies in the bed most of the day and night, not sleeping but a couple of hours because she just WORRIES about everything that did or didn't happen in her 88 years. If she has to go anywhere, she has a melt down. She begins to shake and teeth chatter. Once a week, she does drive to get her hair fixed but it is very hard on her. It is hard for her to get out the bed. I am married to a wonderful man, but I don't want to burden him with all of the details. Mom is not the same person, and she complains all day long about how miserable she is. She will not go to the doctor to get some meds. I got her some a long time ago, and she will not take them. She hates everything in her life, down to the falling leaves. She is a Christian woman who has stopped going to church because she thinks everyone knows her condition. She has outlived all of her friends, and she really doesn't have any. If one or two call her, they are nosy. If they were her friends, they would visit her or ask her to do something with them. Basically, all she has is me. I work full time as a teacher, so I do have a lot of patience. She constantly says that she wants to move in with my husband and I; that is not feasible. I tell her that. I tell her I love her, and I am here for her, but that is not an option. She still says it just about every day to me, and it really does get to me. I go visit her every other day and take her food, and make sure she is taken care of. I really don't think it is dementia, but may be the early stages. She has a good memory; she reminds me to do stuff for her. I just wanted to see if anyone is going through what I am going through with her. This is a terribly, lonely place that I really didn't think I'd be in. I really thought she'd just grow old and become physically feeble, not mentally.