Once again, I am at a loss on what to do for mom, if I can do anything. She has been in a nursing home for 14 months due to frequent falls, very limited vision, broken pelvis, etc.. She constantly badgers me to come home, we lived together for nine years. She was to the point, she wouldn't get out of bed, wet herself and about quit eating. The doctor saw her, changed some meds and her eating has improved and so did her mood. All of my siblings have been here off an on for over a week. Sunday she was confused, called me three times crying to get her out of that place. We went back to see her that night and she was seeing all kinds of things. Monday she was very blah and confused. I went today, because I am worried about her. She was mean and rude to me. She says she is coming home by Thanksgiving, I need to find out why she has trouble holding her urine, she hates that place, and so on. I told her she can't come home unless she can walk alone and take care of herself.
She needed to go to the bathroom and insisted she can get up alone, walk alone, etc... I know she can't, her legs won't hardly move. I turned the call light on, the aid came in and she got mad I called for help. I know she can't do anything alone, but it's out of character for her to lie to me. Is it the dementia that is doing that? She did stand up with the walker and I told her to stand straight, she screamed at me and told me not to boss her. I left, it's so hard to listen to her. She has never been a nice positive person and is self centered, but today was horrible.
I know she hates it there, hates spending the money and having people tell her what to do. I have to have more patience, but this is upsetting to me. What can I do?