Mom with dementia getting frustrated due to loss of independence. Any input?
Also having public outbursts. Six months ago my parents moved into Assisted Living. Then my stepdad had an extended hospital stay & we hired a care giver/companion to stay with Mom during the day to help her with her confusion. Over these six months in addition to the move, mom is no longer allowed to drive by herself. So she has basically lost what little independence she had. She's also in great denial about the level of help that she needs. Stepdad has recovered & kept the caregiver to assist them both. Now they don't go anywhere unless the caregiver takes them. This means that going to the gym, grocery shopping, doctors appointments, laundry, and even lunch out is all done with the caregiver. Recently Mom has started blaming the caregiver for her loss of independence, threatening to fire or hit the caregiver, and even had a few meltdowns in public where she is very mean and hateful towards the caregiver. My stepdad won't consider trying a different caregiver from the same agency and is ready to ship mom off to live with me! I realize that a new caregiver could potentially be the focus of Moms frustration, but I was thinking maybe if Mom had her own caregiver, separate from the one my stepdad views an indispensable, even if only for a few outings a week, it might alleviate some of moms frustration. Coincidentally Mom has also been complaining that everything suddenly tastes very salty???? Any input is greatly appreciated. P.s. I live over 1400 miles away and can't convince my stepdad to move closer to me.