Mom has mid stage dementia and is still cunning and manipulative. I have reminded the aides, nurses, and supervisors several times and they assure me they will instruct the aides. However, again today, Mom insisted they take off the footrests so she can get close to the table when she eats. Then afterward, no one bothers to put them back on. They don't even have to be removed, just lifted and turned aside. The nursing home over and over ignores this or says it has been addressed and over and over it re-occurs. Also, Mom is left with liquid tea when ALL her drinks must be thickened. If I am not there, who knows how many times these things are ignored. I am tired of speaking to the "staff" over and over. What is my recourse if Mom is such a fussy and demanding resident who refuses what is ordered for her? So far, none of the issues have been life-threatening. Do I just sit back and let these things go on? So very frustrated.