She asks for my dad who died in 2001, her dead siblings, parents or other relatives. When I tell her that the person she is asking for is dead she just has this blank look on her face. She seems to have sundowners and is on trazodone. She is always in pain due to arthritis and gets more agitated. My husband and I are retired and I moved her from her home in another city to move in with us since she could no longer live by herself. I am not sure if this was the best solution because she can be very mean at times. I have no sisters and only one brother who really has no clue of what is involved in her care. She does not want me to assist her but she really needs help. Becoming more incontinent and wets the bed almost every night because she does not properly put it on and she takes the protective padding off the bed. She refuses to bathe which is another issue. I just signed up for daycare because of my own health issues. Not yet ready to place her because of financial issues.